Your Body Remembers What Your Mind Forgets! - BodyTalk helps you to Heal Emotional and Energetic Boundaries.

I’ve been noticing a theme lately with myself and with the people I work with.  What keeps coming up is how many of us are still holding emotions in our bodies that originally belonged to someone else. Not because we wanted to, but because at some point in the past, it felt necessary in order to stay safe.  It was a way of managing the emotional weather around us so that others would feel more emotionally balanced.

Most of us don’t even know we’re doing it. I didn’t either, and I certainly didn’t know I was still doing it now, or that I was holding so much emotional energy from the past!

You may want to ask yourself right now:

“Where in my life have I been carrying someone else’s emotional responsibility?”   Feel the answer come in.  Often it will surface before the mind even catches up.

My own exploration of energetic boundaries has been quite an excavation.  It has been the kind of internal digging that surprises me often because I thought I already “knew” this stuff.  I understood the concepts, but my body hadn’t fully caught up to the truth yet, and it was holding more than I realized. 

I have been seeing how I much I have held emotions that were never actually mine, tucked in so tightly that I had claimed them as part of my own story, then struggling to understand why they were so stuck!

As a BodyTalk practitioner, I have conditioned myself to really listen to my body, but things come out in layers over time, often surprising me, and leaving me with a sense of awe each time I learn something deeper about how the body holds energy.   I have recently started seeing on a deeper level HOW I hold other people’s emotions in my body, and why I absorbed them in the first place …. and how long I have been doing it.

Anger - manifesting as a lot of physical pain - was the emotion that finally got my attention to show me the pattern I really needed to see!  Not because I personally experience a lot of anger, but because I needed to see how much of others anger I have taken on in my life from a place of fear. 

It took a surprising amount of frustration - trying to clear “my” emotions - before I finally realized that the anger wasn’t even mine!   Once I released this, and I used my tools to clear it, the physical pain let go immediately!  It was a bit shocking actually - and it shifted my perspective on emotional and energetic boundaries to an entirely new level.

Your body is always talking to you!  Sometimes you just need enough stillness, or the right kind of support, to hear what it has been trying to say.

If you are noticing old memories, emotional pain & physical symptoms that will not seem to go away, that may be your body revealing to you what it’s ready to let go of. Or perhaps your body contracts a little when with certain people in your life. 

These are often clues.

When I tune into the time in my life when I took on the anger, I can feel how I absorbed anger as a child.  It wasn’t safe to witness it in others, especially when it was projected onto me, unintentionally.  My young nervous system did what most kids would do - it internalized this scary emotion. I can feel myself sucking it up like a vacuum … gathering it all up ... but having no idea what I was actully doing.

I held it to keep the peace, hoping it would dissolve in the others, and everything would feel safe again. Underneath all of it was a fear of being abandoned, and my tiny system worked overtime to protect me from that possibility. 

This is a classic empath emotional survival technique. You might recognize your own version of this:

• That instinct to soothe the emotional temperature of other people.

• The urge to take responsibility for feelings that were never yours.

• The deeply ingrained habit of holding space for others long before you learned how to hold it for yourself.

These patterns don’t vanish just because we outgrow the original environment. They sink deeper and become deeply ingrained in the body. They wrap themselves into old beliefs about worth, responsibility, and keeping the peace, eventually showing up as physical symptoms we can’t keep ignoring.

That’s what happened for me.   

Think back into your own childhood and feel if you can relate to this.  Does any of this resonate with you in your current adult life as well?

Thank goodness for all of the healing tools I have in my healing toolbox!

BodyTalk and other healing modalities have been very powerful in helping me and my clients unravel the emotional and energetic threads that have been inherited or absorbed. 

What I love about BodyTalk is the way it lets the body communicate what needs witnessing and untangling in the exact perfect order.  BodyTalk helps you to heal emotional and energetic boundaries, and I also use other tools that help me see what needs to be returned to its rightful owner and returned to them in an effective and ethical way.

The body is unbelievably intelligent. It knows what belongs and what doesn’t.  And when we finally give it the chance to speak, it wastes no time revealing the truth.

Consider where your own body has been trying to get your attention, either quietly or loudly. Those recurring areas of tension, pain or unexplained emotions can sometimes correspond directly to emotional responsibilities you’ve been carrying for others.

The deeper truth I have learned through my years of healing and studying human consciousness, is that when we take on someone else’s emotional energy, they might feel better in the moment, but we unintentionally block their growth. 

Meanwhile we compromise our own clarity, direction, and health. We get entangled in the stories that were never ours, and those stories eventually shape our decisions, our self-worth, and our sense of purpose.

I’ve watched this show up in people’s lives again and again, and have witnessed profound shifts in relationships when one person lets go of feeling responsible for another’s emotional energy.  When you carry the emotional debris of others, everything gets murky.  Boundaries get crossed.  You lose focus and you stop feeling your own instincts. You give your power away and rob others of theirs.

But the moment you begin releasing what isn’t yours, things return to alignment. You feel clearer, more grounded, & more at home in yourself.

Your body loosens its grip on patterns it was never meant to hold.

Here are some self-reflections for you to consider:

• How much of the tension in your body is a result of holding others emotions?

• What made you feel responsible for carrying it?

• What emotional stories did you pick up from your parents or ancestry because it felt safer to adopt the feeling than to simply just witness it?

These might be big questions for you, but they can open the door to real transformation.

This is where BodyTalk and the other intutitve healing modalities I use can be a powerful support.  They helps you uncover what isn’t yours (and what is), they clear emotional imprints that have been weighing you down, and bring your energy system - and physical body - back into balance.  They also help you strengthen your boundaries so you are not so quick to absorb the emotions of others in the future.

If you’re feeling off lately, or if your body is speaking louder than usual, consider it a sign that something is ready to shift.

You don’t have to carry this alone.

If you’d like support, consider this an invitation to book a one-to-one session with me.  This work is deeply intuitive, and every session is tailored specifically to what your body is ready to reveal in the moment. I would be honoured to help you unravel the emotional patterns you’ve absorbed, reconnect you with your own clarity, and restore balance in your system.

And because I know not everyone is ready for a session right away, here is a gentle self-care practice you can start with:

• Pause in stillness long enough to feel into your body, and where you are feeling pain, tension or emotions.   

• Ask your body:  “Who does this emotion/sensation belong to?"

• If the energy lightens when you ask, it is not likley to be yours.  If this is the case, you can then say “Return to sender with consciousness attached” and imagine sending it back to its original owner ~ with Love.

You do not need to know who it belongs to - especially if it is not a significant relationship - it should shift with ease.  If it is a stubborn one to let go of, then you may need some more focused attention as it may belong to (or be the result of) a more entangled relationship in your life.

If you feel called to explore deeper healing and emotional unwinding, you can book your Intuitive Healing session with me HERE. I’d love to support you as you come back home to your own energy, your own clarity, and your own truth.