Burning the T-Shirts Series -A story of Healing, Boundaries & Becoming: Part 3 - A Deep Healing Crisis.

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“I’ve Got This!! … oops… maybe not??”

 - From Burnout to Boundaries & Starting Over

Welcome back! 

Recently, I shared how the dark & heavy t-shirt of grief was the activation for my journey as a healer, and how marriage and divorce taught me authenticity and self-love.  If you have not read these post in this series, you might want to circle back to blog post #1 and post # 2  so that you have more context.

As I mentioned before, life’s lessons didn’t stop there!

I did not see these next t-shirts coming!! They represented extreme burn-out, deeeep healing and more intense letting go…… 

To be fair,  I knew I was deeply exhausted.  The fatigue in my body that I felt on a daily basis was so strong that it was hard to put words to it.  But I kept pushing through “just one more thing”,  because I lived in a state of chronic optimism, thinking that now, after my separation, I was through the worst of it, and that my next step was going to be creating the space to finally rest.

Talk about the universe giving me a rude awaking!  I guess that is what happens when you think you are ‘Super Woman’!  Turns out my mind was much stronger than my body would allow.

The story went something like this…

During covid, my business spiked so much that I had to cut my hours. Meanwhile, I took a rather intense 4 month meditation teacher program, followed by a Breathwork facilitator program - both because my soul has been guiding me towards leading groups. 

I was also homeschooling my son (that was its own special nightmare)!

All at the same time … I was moving through the separation journey with my husband. While we lived peacefully together for 2 years before I moved out, the stress of knowing I was leaving, weighed heavily that entire time.

Eventually I moved out and just two weeks after I received my settlement from the house, I crashed into a full-blown health crisis, fast and hard!!

Oh girl!! I don’t even want to tell you about how see-through and ragged these t-shirts became! This (burnt out) ‘Super Woman’ shirt was nothing like you see in the movies. It was dark midnight blue and had a picture of a candle burning at both ends, wax melting down over the hand that held it.  And ‘Super Woman’ … well she had the blank look of dismay on her face, with dark circles under her eyes.

To be clear, I knew I was navigating burn-out. I had planned a month off to rest

and recharge my batteries, but instead, I got 2 years off!  I was a bit shocked at first, as I did not anticipate the sudden change in direction.  But looking back - WOW - I can sure see that I needed it!!  Not only did I need this amount of time to rest,  I literally needed a health crisis to heal me on a level much deeper than I ever would have gone otherwise, because I did not know what was hiding in my shadows.

What I did not know at the time, was that my Chiron return in Aries “just

happened” to fall at the tail end of a few years of intense stress. If you are asking “what the heck is a Chiron Return??” - it is a much deeper dive into the healing journey of the wounded healer and victim consciousness. 

What timing, hey?!?!

Turns out my Higher Self really wanted me to figure some shit out! 

Why?  Because I asked for it!  I knew I was being called to bigger tasks in the future and that I had to move through some major blocks to get there, so in my somewhat naive way to the higher powers, I pretty much begged the universe to help me get there.  Little did I know it would look like it has and that there would be a Chiron Return in the mix!!  Almost 3 years later, I’m just now in the final integration phase.

Here is what the 'healing crisis' looked like:

• 4 months of pure HELL - barely able to walk from the bed to the bathroom, surviving on microwaved meals, frustration and tears.   Oh - and a rats nest of hair because I could not even brush it, much less wash it. 

• 18 months of slow recovery after that, and before I was able to really engage with life again.

• Doctors and pharmaceuticals? NOT the answer!

• I couldn’t even talk to my regular practitioners for months; my nervous system would go into instant freeze mode.

• I learned that rehabilitating myself was an inside job - end of story!  Yes, I did receive help eventually, but the bulk of the work was mine to do.

During this time, I found myself wearing out the JUST LET GO shirt.

Not only was I letting go of my marriage, I also had to let go of my business, my income, parenting as I had known it, and all of the things I thought I’d be doing once I was on the other side of my separation.

The JUST LET GO  shirt was faded to a tattered white, covered in small useless pockets where I was trying to stuff all the things that I thought I needed to keep the same. The pockets just kept falling off…

Really … how could I keep things the same and break down a lifetime of misalignment within myself?

Everything had to crumble!

This process forced me to dismantle the deepest fears and hidden patterns of codependency I hadn’t even recognized before.  I could no longer operate in the same “safe” patterns. That meant not only did my old ways of existing in wounded healer energy have to start to fall away, but so did the relationships that held those patterns in place.

• Most of my clients had to go.  

• Many of my friendships dissolved.

• My “identity” as I knew it was stripped away.

Everything had to crumble so I could rebuild new inner foundations aligned with my deeper truth.

Finally, I reached a turning point …

The decision to sign up for Nancy Rebecca’s Psychic Mastery 2 program was the magic I needed to help me heal my nervous system.  You see, this entire healing crisis was rooted in me not understanding how to manage my own energy field - energetic SELF CARE & boundaries - which is exactly what this program has to offer.  Only a few months into this 1-year program, I started sleeping 7-8 solid hours each night, as opposed to the regular 3-4 light hours that I had got for MANY years prior, and several other attempts to try to sleep. This had a massive impact on my fatigue, my ability to hold energetic boundaries, and my nervous systems ability to function properly!

Turns out, if you miss the kind of self care I am talking about, your energy field gets battered and overwhelmed - which means you possibly don’t sleep -  and guess what???  Your nervous system takes the hit!

Self care, both energetic and physical, are now a part of life in way used to think was a pipe dream.  Now, I work with my clients using the tools I have learned to help them manage their own energy for self care as well.

Breaking down these old ingrained patterns has been difficult, and going through such extremes to get there was no small feat. Yet, I am deeply grateful. The experience has been SO rich with wisdom and transformation. And, to be transparent, this still takes a lot of presence, practice and diligence. I have to consciously choose each step of the way, as I gradually find my way into healthier new patterns.

This unraveling & re-learning has been the deep healing I needed:

• to listen to how my nervous system speaks to me via the subtle whispers of my body - for both relationships and to life itself.

• to recognize the impact of communication on myself and others.

• and to uncover my authentic voice and understand how much it truly matters.

Along the way, I discovered the quiet but powerful ways I gave away my energy and power in exchange for love and acceptance. I saw how I allowed cords of attachment, both to seek love and to give it, and how those dynamics affected me and likely others, not only energetically but physically, in profound ways.

Through this, I came to understand boundaries on a level I never could have grasped before. I learned the hard way, how loudly the body speaks about boundaries, how this plays out on so many levels, and how often society trains us not to listen. What I know now is that the deepest boundaries are the ones we create within ourselves, and it is from there that healthier boundaries with others naturally emerge.

I am still learning more each day as I listen, observe and reflect on the messages from within. 

This is wisdom I am meant to pass on to others.

Maybe as you read this, you can recognize your own version of these t-shirts.

Perhaps yours says “Always Busy” or “Holding It All Together.”

Maybe it’s the shirt that’s stretched thin from carrying everyone else’s needs, or the one that’s faded from years of pretending everything is fine when inside you’re exhausted.

We all wear our own symbolic t-shirts of survival.

The question is, what shirt are you wearing right now, and what might it be

costing you?

If you’ve realized you’ve been wearing the same worn-out t-shirt for far too long, know that you don’t have to keep carrying it. Your body, your nervous system, and your energy field is already whispering about what needs to change. The journey isn’t about pushing harder, it’s about learning to listen more deeply, setting the boundaries your soul has been asking for, and allowing yourself to rebuild from the inside out.

This is the work I now share with others:

• helping you recognize the patterns that keep you stuck,

• supporting you in releasing what no longer fits,

• and guiding you toward a way of living that actually nourishes you.

Because you deserve a t-shirt that feels like freedom, alignment, and truth.

If you’re ready to take off the t-shirt that no longer fits and step into a new way of

being, I’d love to support you. When you’re ready, you can book a session with me. I’ll be here, ready to walk alongside you.

Book your healing session here!

After these years of wearing the t-shirts of marriage & divorce, grief & burnout,  I’ve learned so much from the ashes. Each one taught me to listen, to release, and to rebuild.  In the final post of this series, I’ll wrap up my lessons from all these experiences, sharing how they have shaped me into who I am today, with the intention of inspiring you to begin to shed your own old t-shirts, so that you can find your own version of freedom, alignment, and self-love. You can link to this final post here.